Remember Your Husband.

Twice in one week, I heard the complaints of men in marriages who felt that once the baby came along, the wife just became super mom and forgot about the guy who helped her make the baby.

Tell me if this scene sounds familiar: a woman is tired at the end of a long day with the kids and asks her husband to help her get them to bed. And he does, but once he gets them into their pajamas he starts wrestling with them, rather than reading to them, and the woman comes in barking, "Just forget it, I'll do it!"

Relax. You can read to him tomorrow night. You've got to relinquish some of that control, and let him do it the way he does it.

Order is nice, routines are nice, but so is spontaneity and fun with Dad. If your guy is trying to help out, just be happy and pat him on the back and give him some nice words of encouragement.

There’s really no such thing as a supermom, anyway. Moms who look like they have it all together, sometimes do (on that specific day), but most times don’t. We’re all human. When you sit down and really talk to someone intimately, you find out we’re all dealing with things in our own ways.

Don't play the martyr, grumbling about poor me I have so much to do, and no one to help me with it. Play the lover. Find things to be happy about and be in love with your guy for. Your kids will be much happier for it. The best gift you can give to your child is to see a happy, secure relationship between their parents. That makes the child feel secure.

Relationships need nourishment. Nourishment comes from putting the time in, making him feel important, valuing his opinion, and treating him like the friend he was before the child (or children) came along. Husbands and wives need private time away from their children to connect, to talk, to just be alone together.

Of course the relationship between a mother and child needs that time and effort put into it as well, but if it is done at the exclusion of the husband that is unbalanced and not good for the family.

The family includes the dad, too. The upside of having him involved with things, even if he does it differently than you do, is you don't have to be the sole provider of every single whim the child has -- you get a break. Plus, the child will be well-rounded and less spoiled if his every demand is not met immediately. Delayed gratification is a great lesson to learn young.

Remember your husband. He’s your partner, your friend, and your ally. All too soon, as adolescence sets in, you’re probably going to need him, so don’t alienate him in the early years. Cultivate that relationship, so it can last long after the kids move out.